Hoping for the Best, Preparing for the Worst

As a society, we’ve sanitised death and shut it away whilst we rush about ‘living’. We never talk about the one thing that’s inevitable for all of us and by avoiding it we limit our ability to live a meaningful life.

We live life as if tomorrow is a certainty, and right now, thanks to C-19, we’re collectively realising that for some of us it won’t be. So maybe now is a good opportunity to talk about death, the final taboo, and not to take precious life for granted?

When we’re stressed we can’t think straight, so better to think and plan ahead whilst calm.

How to Talk About Death

Useful tips from life coach and ex-nurse Lis Allen who has supported many families through the death of a loved one:

Start a conversation with your loved ones, of whatever generation, about your own (or an elderly parent’s) death. Use this article as a conversation starter, if it helps.

Ask what your family think and feel, and talk about how you’re feeling too. If you create calmness and plenty of time for the conversation to happen, you’ll be amazed at what comes out. Ask about each other’s views on death, funerals and burial places. Talk about what is probably the most widespread fear for us all right now – what if we or a loved one were to die alone in a hospital in the current crisis?

It’s more than OK to have these conversations remotely via phone. If there is a gap in conversation, they’re either crying or thinking. Do not interrupt.

Be prepared to be emotional and don’t bottle it up. Allow yourself the time and space to cry and think. Doing this, you’re giving permission for others to own their (very) human emotions.

Jump in and start it now. It can sometimes take months or even years for the conversation to evolve so start now.

For more support, contact Lis on 0777 9532 555 info@lisallen.com or join her daily Lockdown Lunch with Lis on Zoom.


Making Your Will at a Time of Crisis

In crises like this, many people want to make or update their will, after perhaps years of putting it off.

Many people might be tempted to have a go at doing their own wills online, however local will writer Bill Brown is hearing from people who are struggling to fill out the online forms or are worried if they are making the right decisions. Your will is a legal document that determines where everything goes that you have worked so hard to acquire in your lifetime. 

So if you want help at this time it is still possible to get advice from a professional will-writer (just make sure they are IPW qualified). Bill is happy to answer any questions that you might have on 07900 188587 or bill.brown@accordwills.co.uk . He is currently offering free Skype or telephone consultations instead of the normal home visits he normally does across West Berkshire.

The Funeral Process during Coronavirus

Coronavirus has cancelled or postponed many life events such as weddings, christenings, birthdays and anniversaries but all these can be rearranged for another time. 

Funerals however have to happen in some form shortly after a person dies, and funeral directors continue to operate but with adapted procedures so that families still get the opportunity to give the person who has died a dignified and personal send-off.

Please see information here about the current funeral procedures from Daniel at Claridge Funeral Services in Marlborough or contact him for advice at any time on 01672 511836 or daniel@claridgefuneralservice.co.uk.


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