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Feb
17
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2019
9:00 am Hungerford Farmers Market @ Hungerford High Street
Hungerford Farmers Market @ Hungerford High Street
Feb 17 @ 9:00 am – 12:00 pm
Hungerford Farmers Market @ Hungerford High Street | England | United Kingdom
 
9:00 am Newbury Farmers Market @ Newbury Market Place
Newbury Farmers Market @ Newbury Market Place
Feb 17 @ 9:00 am – 1:00 pm
Newbury Farmers Market @ Newbury Market Place | England | United Kingdom
Newbury Farmers Market A part of the Thames Valley Farmers Market Co-Operative, this market offers a wide variety of high-quality specialty produce from a range of small producers. We pride ourselves on the locality and[...]
10:00 am Inkpen Farmers Market @ Inkpen Village Hall
Inkpen Farmers Market @ Inkpen Village Hall
Feb 17 @ 10:00 am – 12:30 pm
Inkpen Farmers Market @ Inkpen Village Hall | Upper Green | England | United Kingdom
Inkpen Food & Craft Market comes to the Village Hall on the 3rd Sunday every month, from 10:00-12:30.  There is a variety of stalls, according to the season.  There’s always plenty of good local food to[...]
4:00 pm Evelyn – Special Screening @ Vue Cinema, Kennet Centre
Evelyn – Special Screening @ Vue Cinema, Kennet Centre
Feb 17 @ 4:00 pm – 6:00 pm
Evelyn - Special Screening @ Vue Cinema, Kennet Centre | England | United Kingdom
Evelyn is a deeply personal documentary from the Academy Award winning team behind The White Helmets (2016) and Virunga (2014). The film follows the story of a family overcoming the unthinkable. On a walking odyssey[...]
5:00 pm Sunday Pizza Night at the Queens... @ Queens Arms
Sunday Pizza Night at the Queens... @ Queens Arms
Feb 17 @ 5:00 pm – 8:00 pm
Sunday Pizza Night at the Queens Arms in East Garston @ Queens Arms | England | United Kingdom
Most of the restaurants and pubs may be shut of a Sunday evening – but not the Queens Arms. Just as the last Sunday lunches are being cleared away, we’re firing up our pizza ovens[...]
Feb
18
Mon
2019
9:30 am Monkey Mayhem @ The Beacon
Monkey Mayhem @ The Beacon
Feb 18 @ 9:30 am – 11:30 am
Monkey Mayhem @ The Beacon | England | United Kingdom
Pre-school stay and play session with bouncy castle and ball pit. Buy tickets on the door – no booking required.   Dates Every Monday & Friday (except Bank Holidays). Price £3.70 per child or £5.70[...]
10:00 am Book and DVD Sale @ Burghfield L... @ Burghfield Library
Book and DVD Sale @ Burghfield L... @ Burghfield Library
Feb 18 @ 10:00 am – Feb 23 @ 4:00 pm
Book and DVD Sale @ Burghfield Library @ Burghfield Library
Book and DVD sale  Monday 18 – Saturday 23 February at Burghfield Library, nothing more than £1. For more information, please contact the library. Twitter: https://twitter.com/WBerksLibraries Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/newburylibrary/ http://info.westberks.gov.uk/35189
10:00 am Indoor Bounce & Inflatables for ... @ Swindon MECA
Indoor Bounce & Inflatables for ... @ Swindon MECA
Feb 18 @ 10:00 am – 4:00 pm
Indoor Bounce & Inflatables for Halfterm @ Swindon MECA | England | United Kingdom
Monday 18th – Friday 22nd February 2019 10am – 4pm (Daily) UNLIMITED PLAY Bouncy Castles (up to 10yrs) Inflatable Obstacle Course (up to 10yrs) Toddler Soft Play (0-4yrs) 0-6 Months – Free Under 4’s –[...]
10:00 am Monday Rhymetime @ Thatcham Library @ Thatcham Library
Monday Rhymetime @ Thatcham Library @ Thatcham Library
Feb 18 @ 10:00 am – 10:30 am
Monday Rhymetime @ Thatcham Library @ Thatcham Library | England | United Kingdom
Monday Rhymetime at Thatcham Library Rhymetime for under 3’s at Thatcham Library. Every Monday in term time, 10.00-10.20am. For more information, please contact the library. Twitter: https://twitter.com/WBerksLibraries Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/newburylibrary/ http://info.westberks.gov.uk/article/30286
10:00 am Music Mondays, Wantage @ Vale & Downland Museum
Music Mondays, Wantage @ Vale & Downland Museum
Feb 18 @ 10:00 am – 10:30 am
Music Mondays, Wantage @ Vale & Downland Museum | England | United Kingdom
For under 5s – come and join Music Mondays.  Join in with traditional songs and rhymes accompanied by live music. Children must be accompanied by an adult.  Spaces are limited so please book in advance[...]

Social Media…do you find it horrible?

Social media offends me, makes me aggressively defensive, makes me feel so vulnerable I want to cry. And I’m not even a teenager. My friends say I should write a bit about this. It’s possible they are bored with my rants on the subject when they try to persuade me to engage with social media, bully me into writing blogs and even suggest I join Twitter. They have GOT to be joking.

They reckon there are probably heaps of people out there who feel the same as I do. But like me, they feel they are the only ones and don’t make their feelings heard. Well, of course, they don’t! That’s a lot of the reason why they don’t like social media. . .this airing of one’s private thoughts and feelings to anybody out there who happens to read them. It’s an appalling invasion of privacy. It’s like ripping one’s innards out and putting them on display to people one often doesn’t even know exist. Why would one even WANT to make one’s self so vulnerable to the opinions and probable judgement of everyone you know and everyone you don’t?

Then there is the other side of the story. Do we really want to know what Jayboy had for breakfast? How all of Sukie’s children passed their exams, marvellous little wonders? Whether 5 or 60 people turned up for Amy’s morning boot camp? Do we really? Really? Aren’t there zillions of more uplifting and useful ways of spending that time? And then there is the hardcore stuff – the stuff that breaks our hearts and self-esteem. Especially if we are very young; the highest users of social media. Try telling a teenager that what they see on social media is just the cherry picked high points their friends choose to make public. The ordinary everyday struggle that the teenager is battling with is not out there for comparison. Because we do that. We compare all the time.

It’s how our minds work. So in comparison to the carefully edited lives of others, that teenager’s mundane life takes a real beating. And so does the teenager’s self-confidence. Trying to be liked and out there with the best, the teenager makes himself/herself available to “friends” on social media. The more friends the better. The number of friends = measure of popularity. But often these so-called friends are just as insecure as the teenager and take this insecurity out on each other, bullying and undermining. It’s much easier to say something ugly to a screen than to a live face.

I could go on. Oh goodness, I could go on. Because I see the fallout of social media in my therapy room more and more. I expect I could find lots of truly valuable aspects of social media to put in here, you know, to give this blog balance and depth. But I’m not going to. I’ve enjoyed this rant far too much.

Thanks for reading it if you did. You have my full understanding and approval if you simply skipped or deleted it.

Siobhan Nell Cognitive HypnotherapySiobhan Nell

P.S. If this blog has raised any issues for you, please feel free to contact me on 07704 616900 info@hypnotherapy-cognitive.com

There is more about my work on my website hypnotherapy-cognitive.com.

 

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